Probably the single greatest asset which anyone
can ever have in conversations is the ability to make
other people laugh.
Whether you are asking your boss for a raise, talking
to someone who you like, or just trying to be the
popular person who everyone wants to be around, you
will get light years ahead if only you can make them
An interesting, but little known fact is that laughter
is a response which is a subconscious way of saying
to someone else "I want to bond with you". Is it any
wonder that countless surveys have shown that the
number one desired characteristic in the opposite
sex, for both sexes, is a sense of humour.
But can someone actually learn to be funny? Do you
have to be born with a particular natural talent for
humour, which if you don't have, there's no chance
for you? Are some people permanently condemned to
a lifetime of boredom and unpopularity, never able
to hold their own in a conversation, while the 'natural
funny guys' effortlessly take the approval of everyone
present? Is there a secret to being funny?
Many naturally funny people, even most stand-up comedians,
will tell you that humour "just comes" and that is
the only way it can be ever be produced. If you don't
possess a natural sense of humour, you will never
But is this true?
Imagine for a moment, being able to make anyone laugh
at will. No matter what the situation, just being
able to turn anything into a well-crafted, make-everyone-laugh
joke. Always be able to insert that killer funny line
into any conversation. What could you achieve with
this ability which outshines even the 'naturals'?
How easy would conversations be from now on? How much
would your confidence improve knowing you will always
carry around with you the effortless secret of powerful
But is this possible? Can humour actually 'be learnt'?
I want you for a moment to think back to your school
days when you had to learn that subject which everyone
loved called - mathematics. Now, some people found
mathematics quite easy and picked it up quite fast,
while others didn't take to it as good and plodded
along kinda slowly. There are 'naturals' at mathematics
too. But in the end, everyone actually learnt to do
mathematics. Everyone actually learnt to be able to
do addition and subtraction quite easily. The heavier
stuff maybe not everyone got, but it soon became obvious
that even those who at first had trouble, with a bit
of study and a bit of work, it was possible for anyone
to be able to develop the ability to 'do mathematics'.
So what exactly is going on here? Well, mathematics
is primarily a left-brain activity. Now some people
are naturally 'left-brained' people and so have an
advantage at left-brained things like mathematics.
However, even those who aren't 'left-brained' people
can still exercise that part of their brain and develop
it to any level they choose. It just takes a little
bit more work. The same is true for humour. Humour
is primarily a right-brain activity. Some people may
not be naturally 'right-brained' people, but they
can still develop this part of their brain. So who
then can learn humour?
Anyone who has ever laughed at a joke can learn to
That's just about everyone right? Okay, sounds great,
but how do I learn to be funny? Well, how did you
learn to do mathematics? First you were given a formula,
then you practiced using it over and over again. It
was hard at first - you really had to think. But after
doing heaps of problems, it was easy. You could do
it in your sleep. It is the same with humour.
So what is the formula to being funny?
Make yourself comfortable here because I am about
to share with you the secret to all humour.
The human brain operates by continuously looking
for patterns. It does this so that it can constantly
predict the outcome of a situation. When a story is
began, the brain immediately finds a familiar pattern
to associate it to, so that it can predict where it
is going. But when this pattern is disrupted and a
connection is suddenly made to an entirely new and
unexpected pattern, laughter occurs as this new connection
Okay, that's a bit heavy. How does it actually work?
Well lets take an example.
"Before you criticise someone, you should walk a
mile in their shoes. That way when you do, you will
be a mile away and have their shoes."
A bit of an old classic, but it clearly demonstrates
what we are talking about. The first part of this
line - the setup - creates a mental pattern which
makes you think a certain way. If we just left it
here, you would be thinking I am trying to tell you
to be slow to criticise someone and first try to understand
them. Now I haven't actually said this, but the mental
pattern predicts this outcome. However, when I drop
the second part - the punch line - all of a sudden
this first pattern is interrupted and a connection
is made to an entirely new, unexpected pattern. Now
I am telling you to make sure you can get away with
it and have the advantage. The important thing is
though, that there is still a connection between the
first part and the second part - it still makes sense.
It is just not what you first expected. The first
pattern has been disrupted. This is how all humour
So how can I use that to be funny?
First create a setup. You say something which has
an implied outcome. "I would love to tell you just
what a great job you are doing"
The implied outcome is that I like the job this person
is doing and I am complimenting them. But then I slam
'em with the punch line. "But I don't want to ruin
my honest reputation."
Okay, not quite the outcome expected, but it still
makes sense. This is humour.
All this might seem like a complicated process, but
this is the formula for making people laugh. Remember
the first time you were given a mathematics formula
to play around with? It was long and complicated at
first, but with a bit of practice it soon became easy.
If you use this formula to create lots of jokes, very
soon it will be automatic. You will have trained your
mind to instantly create humour on command. You will
have learnt to be funny.
What I have just shared with you is the basic formula
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